Dating means different things to different people. While some see dating as a means of finding ‘the one’, this isn’t always the case. If you long to establish a solid, serious relationship and focus on the long-term, rather than the short-term, here are 5 golden rules to bear in mind.
Be clear about your objectives
When you’re dating, it’s always wise to be clear about what you want and what you’re looking for. If you know that you want a steady relationship, don’t kid yourself that anything less than that will do. Use your individual goals to motivate you and maximise your chances of hitting that target. Be honest with yourself. There’s nothing wrong with dating people with an ultimate goal of falling head over heels in love and settling down. If you know what you’re aiming for, this will enable you to take control of the situation and make sure relationships develop on your terms.
Look in the right places
We’re all unique, and we view relationships in different ways. Some people are out there looking for true love, while others may be focused on finding friendship or companionship or searching for a bit of fun. If you want a serious relationship, it’s wise to think about where you’re looking.
Although it’s impossible to rule out meeting your future life partner on an app, you’re probably more likely to find somebody who is on the same page on dating sites for serious relationships. If you struggle to meet people, and this is why that perfect relationship is eluding you, consider being a little more sociable. Take up new hobbies, socialise with friends more often and explore the world of online dating
Be honest about your intentions
If you’re dating, and you’re going out with potential suitors, it’s important to be honest. If you want something serious, don’t be afraid to say this. You don’t need to ramble on about marriage or children or building a home together on the first date, but make it clear that you’re not just there to have fun and play the field. As well as setting out your stall, you can also gauge your date’s reaction, which will help you see if they have similar intentions.
Search for common ground
There are many elements that contribute to a successful, long-term relationship, but finding common ground is often a really positive sign. Look for people who have similar interests to you. If you’re dating online, for example, narrow your search criteria to increase your chances of
matching with somebody who has hobbies or passions that you share.
Take your time
In this day and age, there’s a lot of pressure to follow patterns and have 5-year or 10-year plans in place. The reality is that life doesn’t always pan out how you want or expect it to. Although it can be very hard to ignore external influences, for example, pressure from friends or family or society in general, it’s always better to take your time. Don’t force something if it doesn’t feel right, and try not to panic. Many people find that elusive connection when they’re least expecting to.
If you want a serious relationship, it can be difficult to negotiate the dating minefield. Hopefully, these golden rules will help you steer clear of time-wasters and find somebody special.
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