Agony Aunt

Sarah Louise Ryan is a leading UK Dating & Relationship Expert and our resident Agony Aunt. Please note that Sarah Louise does not reply individually but will answer as many pressing dating and relationship dilemmas as possible. Answers will appear on this page below. 

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I’m 54, I’ve been living with my partner for 20 years, for most of that time it’s been a non physical relationship

Hello Sarah,
I’m 54, I’ve been living with my partner for 20 years, for most of that time it’s been a non physical relationship and for the last 4 years nothing at all. I’m lonely and miserable in this so I work all hours to distract myself and she has a horse which she focuses her time on. I remember being single in my 30s which was a nightmare as although I found it easy to go on dates I hardly ever wanted to go on a second date as they generally seemed slightly mad/odd etc and I feel I settled as I was lonely. I don’t have any family and hate being on my own, how do I meet available women that aren’t crazy, hung up on exes, gold diggers, or incapable of loyalty and are just kind and non aggressive? Is it too much to ask? I want to make a change as I’ve had enough.
– Steve, Guildford Surrey

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Where could we date when I am broke?

Dear Sarah,

I’m looking forward to dating after lockdown. But basically I’m broke, after losing my job.

So I’m worried if a girl would want to date me? And if so where could we date when I am broke?

It’s embarrassing to say that I haven’t got much money.

Thank you .
– Ed
Swindon

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Why do people suddenly stop texting (Ghosting)?

Dear Sarah,

Why do people suddenly stop texting (Ghosting)?

It’s happened to me more than once now.

We are chatting away for weeks, all going well. Discussing meeting up then they disappear.

It really makes you feel low, you keep going over the conversations thinking what did I say wrong ?

Thank you .
– Lauren
Guildford Surrey

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I’ve never been in a relationship (serious or otherwise)

Dear Sarah,
I’m currently 22 going to be 23 very soon and I can help but feel like there’s something wrong with me. I’ve never been in a relationship (serious or otherwise) I’ve never had a fling or my first kiss or even been on a date.

It’s not like I don’t want to, all my family and friends around me are engaged or have partners and are always asking me if I’m seeing anyone, it’s getting to the point I just avoid gatherings as I know I’ll have to say ‘no’ and come up with some flimsy excuse.

When the real reason is I have no idea, It’s not from lack of trying, I just don’t seem to meet people or when I do I usually get overlooked. I’ve tried dating apps but haven’t got anywhere. It’s getting to the point were even I’m concerned, at this point even if I were to find someone I’ve never been on a date or kissed someone and I’m still a virgin would they think I was strange.

I really don’t know what else to try. Kind regards, An unwilling single.
– Hannah, in Norfolk

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