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I’m 54, I’ve been living with my partner for 20 years, for most of that time it’s been a non physical relationship
I’m 54, I’ve been living with my partner for 20 years, for most of that time it’s been a non physical relationship and for the last 4 years nothing at all. I’m lonely and miserable in this so I work all hours to distract myself and she has a horse which she focuses her time on. I remember being single in my 30s which was a nightmare as although I found it easy to go on dates I hardly ever wanted to go on a second date as they generally seemed slightly mad/odd etc and I feel I settled as I was lonely. I don’t have any family and hate being on my own, how do I meet available women that aren’t crazy, hung up on exes, gold diggers, or incapable of loyalty and are just kind and non aggressive? Is it too much to ask? I want to make a change as I’ve had enough.
– Steve, Guildford Surrey
I have been widow now for 6 years and I’m 63 now I’m beginning to wonder if i will ever find that happiness
I have been widow now for 6 years and I’m 63 now I’m beginning to wonder if i will ever find that happiness that I had with my late husband, we were married almost 15 years before he passed away I am beginning to lose hope in finding that special someone to share my life with.
– Carol, Surrey
I’m looking forward to dating after lockdown. But basically I’m broke, after losing my job.
So I’m worried if a girl would want to date me? And if so where could we date when I am broke?
It’s embarrassing to say that I haven’t got much money.
Thank you .
I find it hard to write an introductory message that gets a response. I read profiles and try to include things that have been mentioned in them, yet still my messages go unanswered.
Do you have any tips for resolving this?
Thank you .
Why do people suddenly stop texting (Ghosting)?
It’s happened to me more than once now.
We are chatting away for weeks, all going well. Discussing meeting up then they disappear.
It really makes you feel low, you keep going over the conversations thinking what did I say wrong ?
Thank you .
I’m currently 22 going to be 23 very soon and I can help but feel like there’s something wrong with me. I’ve never been in a relationship (serious or otherwise) I’ve never had a fling or my first kiss or even been on a date.
It’s not like I don’t want to, all my family and friends around me are engaged or have partners and are always asking me if I’m seeing anyone, it’s getting to the point I just avoid gatherings as I know I’ll have to say ‘no’ and come up with some flimsy excuse.
When the real reason is I have no idea, It’s not from lack of trying, I just don’t seem to meet people or when I do I usually get overlooked. I’ve tried dating apps but haven’t got anywhere. It’s getting to the point were even I’m concerned, at this point even if I were to find someone I’ve never been on a date or kissed someone and I’m still a virgin would they think I was strange.
I really don’t know what else to try. Kind regards, An unwilling single.
– Hannah, in Norfolk
Will I be able to find love again after I’ve lost my partner. I am a widow?
– Anne in Hampshire
How do I deal with being dumped? I am struggling to be able to move on.
– Stephen from Surrey
I have been ghosted twice now, and it’s really knocked my confidence. How can I deal with this please?
– Debbie from Surrey
I have been dating a guy for a while, but there are things I don’t like about him. Is it ever going to be possible to change him? Or will have to accept him as he is? – Helen from Norfolk.