When navigating the dating scene there’s a mass of singles seeking to connect, all with different intentions, goals and desires around dating. 

There’s so much potential for dating to boost someones confidence or for it to lower how someone feels about themselves along the dating journey.

The major difference between those two polarised experiences is this: Mindset. 

You see, we all have a subconscious blueprint in our minds about how people should act, behave, communicate and navigate each date. This is our expectations based on how we would personally behave, expecting all human beings to be the same.

We all also have a response to others. This can sometimes be an internalised response around what we make other peoples behaviour, words or actions mean about us, our dating journey or the end goal of of what we are capable of achieving romantically. This is our response. 

Rejection is a big part of what holds people back from staying consistent, positive and pro-active in the dating journey. This is because people don’t always see rejection as just redirection, getting you closer to meeting that right certain someone. 

Once there is an understanding that you too have the right to choose then there is a high chance you will master your mindset, build mental resilience around the journey to finding romance and you’ll also be able to stay the path. 

Want to know what successful daters do to overcome rejection and find love? 

They Refuse To Allow Rejection To Define Them

Many see rejection as a failure, a final destination so to speak. Those who stay the path of dating after rejection do so because they refuse to let some elses judgement define them. 

Often those judgements are baseless, especially on dating apps and not representative of who you are and what you’re worth in dating. They see failure as a hurdle in their as they continue onwards on the search to finding a partner. 

Mentally resilient people don’t allow their self-worth to be contingent on other people’s opinions. Instead, they know who they are and what they’re capable of doing and achieving, despite receiving a rejection.

They Practice Self-Compassion

The path of least resistance can often be to access our inner critic but the more negative the internal chatter the more you will align yourself with negative thoughts and feelings. Remember, thoughts become things and so don’t give any attention to rejection. 

Lead your love life with compassion, you’ll heal from any hurt, no matter how big or small quicker than you’d expect. 

They Learn Lessons From Rejection

Rejection can be an exceptional teacher. The more you become aware of your triggers and what doesn’t make your heart feel full in dating, the more you can heal what’s hurting. You have to have self-awareness in order to make the changes you want to see in your mindset and on your dating journey. 

See it, feel it and heal it. You can do this by asking yourself “what did I learn from this experience”  or “what did I make this experience mean about me” or “have I learnt more about what I want from this experience” 

They Move Forward With Confidence

Rejection can often cause singles to stop moving forward. The process tends to be feeling, believing the negative chatter and then seizing the search. Lots of singles in the dating app space tend to feel the rejection, internalise it, delete the app, seize the search and then sink time.

But really, they are serious about the search for their someone but waste time worrying about what others think about them and what the actions of others means about them. The answer is this: absolutely nothing. 

You deserve love, you deserve to date better and the way you can do that is allowing yourself to see rejection as redirection.

If you would like to book a dating coaching session with Sarah Louise Ryan, our London Dating Coach, to support you on the path to finding the right partner you can enquire about that right here. 

Much Love, 

Team TDC x