Dear Sarah,

I’m looking forward to dating after lockdown. But basically I’m broke, after losing my job.

So I’m worried if a girl would want to date me? And if so where could we date when I am broke?

It’s embarrassing to say that I haven’t got much money.

Thank you .
– Ed

Hi Ed,

Thanks for your question and for being so transparent about your circumstances.

First and foremost, it’s important for you to know that so many people are in the same boat as you right now, you are not alone. So many people will be also thinking or asking themselves the same thing about the financial investment needed for modern dating but feeling fearful about vocalising it for different reasons.

The flip side of the world pandemic is that people really appreciate the simple and little things in life and so a stroll and a coffee or a meeting for a glass of wine in an outdoor place when the lockdown lift allows will be a massive pleasure for most people.

I can’t speak for everyone but I do know the vast majority of modern daters have been grounded and more connected to what matters the most lately and it’s not the flashy stuff, I can tell you that for sure.

If you’re currently in a position where you want to invest your time and energy in the right kind of people then shift the focus on to that and ensuring you are feeling aligned with people on your wavelength.

If financial investment in the dates you attend is a massive problem for someone then perhaps they are not the right person for you, you just have to let those people fall off to ensure you are creating the most positive dating experience for yourself. You want to enjoy meeting people, you don’t want to have to worry about something like this when checking in on values, wants and relationship goals are already massive components for consideration.

For example, if you find that you meet someone who is financially in an abundant space and they are not considerate of how the world pandemic has affected your position in the short term, perhaps they lack the empathy that you would want or need in a relationship or your position – they wouldn’t be right for you.

The best thing you can do is navigate dating by aligning yourself with people who get you and respond you now and in the future. Anything outside of that is not right for you. Don’t place too much pressure on yourself to perform financially or otherwise to appease other people – you do you and then you will attract to you the right kind of person meant for you.

Hope that is helpful, let me know how you get on dating after lockdown lifts.

Sarah Louise Ryan x
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